Your
dream should be much bigger than you. At minimum, your dream should
embrace others you care about. It should also include those they care
about in some meaningful way.
Why? Because when you focus too much on you, your dream may end up
placing limitations on what is possible. Petty personal things will
get in the way. Remember, it is important to have
others support your dream and if it is focused entirely on you then their
support may not be as enduring. The best dreams are really, really BIG dreams that factor in how the world benefits from your particular dream. When your dream is really big, it will attract people and resources beyond your personal circle to help you make it real.
Is it possible dreams can be too big to achieve and you know the result of the dream could change the way we think, the way we live, the way businesses do business? What if the dream could save businesses $1000s if not $10,000s a year and quite possibly get 500-5000 people in jobs in one year?
What if the dream could save the state billions of dollars?
Could a dream die because it's success relies on a significant amount of money to get it started and keep alive?
Because individuals I have shared the dream with immediately say "it will never work" I should listen and not bother?
What if, literally, just finding a building perfect for the dream, sits on 13 acres, 51,320 sq ft, complete with auditorium, classroom style rooms, offices , 3 wings and other glorious amenities and no coincidence a couple weeks ago meeting 2 ladies who understand the dream and believe in its possibility (the dream is much bigger now ladies) and the gut says "go for it"
Do I listen to family who say it won't work because I'll never get the money to support it (yes, it's millions a year).
Is this real? Is it a pipe dream? Or regardless of whatever anyone says to tell me why it won't work (and really not have any just cause as to why other than money) and just by finding people who have the same passion as I, standing shoulder to shoulder, all working together not just helping individuals find jobs but lives are changed forever?
What if the Microsoft guy didn't do what he did. What if the apple guy didn't do what he did. And others....
You own your dream, not others. They own theirs. If you ask them, they can only respond to your dream as a listener and not as an owner. If you decide that a dream is too big based on non-owner opinions, then you have their answer: the dream is too big. Be aware that we often go to others for their advise on what we should or should not do because of our own inauthenticity: We don't really believe in it ourselves. Or, we don't believe in ourselves. Don't misunderstand the feeling of overwhelm with the need to know exactly how the dream will come about. It simply doesn't work that way. You can't know how, initially. But we think we should. You will never know all the "hows", but this does not mean the dream won't or can't happen. If you seek advise, seek a professional and ask them not "Can this happen?", but rather "How can this be made to happen?" Remember, anything is possible.
I would offer to you to sit back and write out all the ways people and businesses will benefit from your dream. Learn from what you write. This helps to bring forth a sense of reality to the dream. If you can visualize others enjoying your dream, it becomes more possible for the dream to become real. This is just one of the many steps to take towards making the dream reality. There are many, many more.
Finally, don't think of money, think in terms of "who" can share your dream to help you make it reality. It is a pipe dream if you are not committed to doing all you can do to make it happen and to engage others. If a "this won't happen" shuts you down, then almost anything will shut you down along the way. Hope this helps.
Help, need advice:
Is it possible dreams can be too big to achieve and you know the result of the dream could change the way we think, the way we live, the way businesses do business? What if the dream could save businesses $1000s if not $10,000s a year and quite possibly get 500-5000 people in jobs in one year?
What if the dream could save the state billions of dollars?
Could a dream die because it's success relies on a significant amount of money to get it started and keep alive?
Because individuals I have shared the dream with immediately say "it will never work" I should listen and not bother?
What if, literally, just finding a building perfect for the dream, sits on 13 acres, 51,320 sq ft, complete with auditorium, classroom style rooms, offices , 3 wings and other glorious amenities and no coincidence a couple weeks ago meeting 2 ladies who understand the dream and believe in its possibility (the dream is much bigger now ladies) and the gut says "go for it"
Do I listen to family who say it won't work because I'll never get the money to support it (yes, it's millions a year).
Is this real? Is it a pipe dream? Or regardless of whatever anyone says to tell me why it won't work (and really not have any just cause as to why other than money) and just by finding people who have the same passion as I, standing shoulder to shoulder, all working together not just helping individuals find jobs but lives are changed forever?
What if the Microsoft guy didn't do what he did. What if the apple guy didn't do what he did. And others....
What would you do?
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Hello Doreen,
You own your dream, not others. They own theirs. If you ask them, they can only respond to your dream as a listener and not as an owner. If you decide that a dream is too big based on non-owner opinions, then you have their answer: the dream is too big. Be aware that we often go to others for their advise on what we should or should not do because of our own inauthenticity: We don't really believe in it ourselves. Or, we don't believe in ourselves. Don't misunderstand the feeling of overwhelm with the need to know exactly how the dream will come about. It simply doesn't work that way. You can't know how, initially. But we think we should. You will never know all the "hows", but this does not mean the dream won't or can't happen. If you seek advise, seek a professional and ask them not "Can this happen?", but rather "How can this be made to happen?" Remember, anything is possible.
I would offer to you to sit back and write out all the ways people and businesses will benefit from your dream. Learn from what you write. This helps to bring forth a sense of reality to the dream. If you can visualize others enjoying your dream, it becomes more possible for the dream to become real. This is just one of the many steps to take towards making the dream reality. There are many, many more.
Finally, don't think of money, think in terms of "who" can share your dream to help you make it reality. It is a pipe dream if you are not committed to doing all you can do to make it happen and to engage others. If a "this won't happen" shuts you down, then almost anything will shut you down along the way. Hope this helps.
Melody Cofield
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....and yes, the dream keeps me up all night....
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